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Don't Divorce!


I’ve known my young friend Jacqui since before her marriage.  She has a loving husband who is a devoted father to their children.  Jacqui is also very beautiful. She recently received a substantial inheritance, but she’s unhappy.  She claims she no longer loves her husband and wants a divorce.  She’s never been willing to discuss spiritual things.  I decided to write a letter:

Dear Jacqui,   Dan and I were saddened to learn that you had filed for divorce.  You don’t know this, but my mother divorced her first husband.  My older sister and brother were from her first husband.  Three years after their divorce she married my father and I was born a year later.  I have two younger sisters.

Several times while growing up I’d hear my mother say,  “Divorce was not the answer!  I have just as many problems with my second husband as I did with my first.”  Moreover, she now had two sets of kids, and still had her first husband in her life as they shared their children.

People say kids are resilient. They will adjust.  Besides, today there are so many kids from broken homes they won’t feel any different.  It’s not true.  Kids are resilient on the outside.  They adjust on the outside.  But their hearts will yearn for their parents to be together again.  Your children will observe other kids from intact families and they will know they are missing out.

We’ve heard that a child’s security comes from knowing their parents love them.  That’s only partly true.  A child’s real security comes in knowing their parents love each other.

What is love?  Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person. Love does not depend on feelings.   Love is a choice.  Love is something you do.

I’ve been where you are.  I’ve been tempted to escape from my marriage and enjoy freedom…and a new life.  But I suppose it was always my faith in Christ that kept me obedient.  I’m so glad now that I WAS obedient.  Because looking back, those times I thought would never get better, are gone. God was faithful to my obedience.   He’ll be faithful to yours, as well.

This life is short.  VERY short!  This life has a purpose:  you see, this life is a test.  I want to pass the test.  I want my kids and grandkids to pass the test.  This life may be short, but eternity is forever.

We each have a soul and that soul is the life inside our body.  Once our body dies our soul will continue to live.  The most important question is:  Where will your soul live?  Many believe that if they are good they will go to heaven.

Being good or bad has nothing to do with it.  Because nobodyis good enough for heaven.  We all need a Savior to save us from eternal separation from God.  We all need a Savior and there is only ONE.

There are two kinds of people:  those who will be saved in the next life and those who will not.   But as far as I know, I don’t believe you’ve ever come to know the Lord Jesus, nor the joy, peace and purpose that only He provides.

There WILL be a time when you wake up and realize you’ve made some serious mistakes and you need God in your life.  Don’t wait.  You’ll be very sad if you do.

When we come to the end of our lives, the only question that matters to God is, “What did you do with Jesus?” When you are ready to investigate the God life, you might check out this site:

Or even this one:

I love you!   Kathleen

  •  [For “I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel.  Malachi 2:16 NASB]
Categories : devotional . evangelism . Great Commission . Growth . inspiration . wisdom

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Should I (market/rank/optimize/advertise/make money with) my Christian Blog?

I have talked to bloggers on both sides of this question. Some think very strongly one way or the other whereas other bloggers seem to be indifferent. How you feel and what you feel lead to do is up to you. I’m simply going to voice my opinion and give you some things to think about.

Accepting Awards

Blog Awards

When I first got into Christian blogging, this is one of the first things that I noticed; Blogs that do not accept awards. I was a bit surprised by this. If you have a good thing going and someone feel compelled to nominate you for an award, why not accept it? After pondering this one a bit, I can see why you would choose to do this.

As Christian bloggers, our goal should be to lead others to Christ and help fellow Christians strengthen their walk with Christ. Everything we do should be for HIS glory, not ours. If you choose to accept awards on your blog, I think this is fine. If you choose not to, I think that is fine to. Mainly because the award reflects your blog site and the difference your writing is making. Well, as long as you’re not going around flaunting your awards and telling everyone that you are be best blogger in the world.


Marketing, optimizing, & ranking

Blog Marketing Ranking

A couple months ago, when I added the FOCB Top 50, I was shocked by some feedback I received. Long story short, we lost one member because they did not want to be associated with anything that had ranking or paid attention to ‘the numbers’.

I think a lot of this goes back to the previous point about awards. Some bloggers feel that nothing should matter other then the writing itself. Yes, your blog posts and writing to glorify God is of utmost importance. But there are other factors involved.

Most website ranking systems (ours included) focus on the popularity of a site. If a site is popular, has a lot of people coming to it, and is easy to find online then it will have a high rank. If a site has very few readers and is hard to find in the blogosphere then it will have a low rank. Let me put it another way. Let’s assume that you are a wonderful Christian blogger and you write wonderful content that anyone would enjoy to read and it helps them grow closer to Christ. Now if you have a high ranking site, then people will find and read your posts and in turn, grow in their faith. If you have a low ranking site, very few people will ever find and benefit from your posts.

Make sense? No, Christian blogging is not all about the numbers. Yes, paying some attention to the numbers does make a difference.


Should a Christian Blogger make money on their blog?

Now for the big question, is it acceptable for a Christian Blogger to make money on their Christian blog? I have heard a lot of debate on this issue.

Are you blogging for the LORD, are you blogging to make money, or can you do both?

Blogging for the LORD

Blogging for the LORD

Without a doubt, this should be our primary goal! Everything we do, in every aspect of our life, should be done to glorify God! I recently asked the question on our forum; where do you find inspiration for your posts? Several of our members weight in with basically the same answer. God inspires their posts (by various means) and gives them the message to write about.

Writing what God inspires us to write and knowing that He is glorified by our writing should be all the reward we need. We don’t need to make any money, were doing it for God!

Blogging for money

Make Money Blogging

If you spend some time looking around online, you will find some VERY profitable blogs. Granted, most of the big ones aren’t Christian blogs, but the point remains. There is even one site that provides training for bloggers that advertises being able to earn a six figure income, from blogging! Sounds a bit farfetched, but I believe it could be possible, in the right niche, with the right resources and hard work.

Even if you’re not looking for a six figure income, it is possible to earn some money blogging. Offering advertising spots on your site can bring in a little money each month. Offering eBooks or other resources for sale can make you even more.

Blogging for money AND for Christ

How do you accomplish both? Is it ok to do both? Should you? Wither or not you should on your blog, is a personal question you will have to ask yourself. Is it ok to, I think so, as long as money is not your primary goal. Some think it is wrong for a Christian blogger to accept any money from their blogging efforts. I think this is equivalent to saying your Pastor is working for God’s glory so he should expect a pay check from the Church. It is ok to pay your Pastor, as long as he is doing the Lords work, and putting God’s kingdom first. Motive can be everything here.

Keep your focus on Him and blogging to glorify God and grow His kingdom. If you are able to make some money to help pay for your hosting, design work, etc, etc, I say go for it.

What do you think? Do you make any money on your blog? Do you think it is ok to do so? Let me know in the comments below.




Categories : blog promotion . blog stats . blogging without obligation . criticism . marketing . SEO

ThunderClap & let the world know that God's Not Dead!


I'm sure (or at least I hope) that you have heard about the move "God's Not Dead". The Robertson Family, the Duck people behind the Duck Dynasty, have been working hard to bring this movie to theaters across the country. 

GOD’S NOT DEAD features a talented cast of actors including Kevin Sorbo (SOUL SURFER, HERCULES, ANDROMEDA), Shane Harper (GOOD LUCK CHARLIE, HIGH SCHOOL MUSICAL 2), David A.R. White (BROTHER WHITE, REVELATION ROAD and JERUSALEM COUNTDOWN), and Dean Cain (LOIS & CLARK: THE NEW ADVENTURES OF SUPERMAN), with special appearances by Christian super-band Newsboys and “Duck Dynasty’s” Willie and Korie Robertson.

The movie opens on March 21st 2014. They want EVERYONE to join them in making a statement that can't be ignored! It’s time to declare to the world that God’s Not Dead! He is ALIVE in us and we want to change the culture through HIM and HIS LOVE!

For the world to take notice, we need to shout it out loud, all at once. That’s what this Thunderclap campaign is all about. Coming together as ONE voice! Join with the God’s Not Dead Movie Team to help us reach Millions of people, on 1 day, with 1 message.

Sign up for this Thunderclap now and on March 21st we will flood the world as we digitally celebrate the #GodsNotDeadMovie release and prayerfully ask God to use us to show His LOVE and CHANGE the culture for Christ!

I signed up, will you? Will you post this on your blog and encourage your readers to join in the ThunderClap also? Let's flood social media with the message, the message that God's Not Dead!

If you posted this to your blog, put a link to it in the comments below. They have a goal of 500 supporters. Let's blow that out of the water!


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How our Writing can Bring Glory to God


I couldn’t believe it.

I held a human brain in my hands. And only a few of us volunteered to do this. 

“Run your fingers through the grooves,” Our professor said. 

This most certainly became my favorite day as a returning student.

One fact I learned in that class was this, “If you want people to remember what you write/say, you need to touch their emotions.”

One of the best ways to do that is to be vulnerable. Write about the hard things in life.

In Tribe Writers, an online course I’ve taken by Jeff Goins, one assignment brought this home to me.


Write something scary

I sat there staring at the submit button.

Something scary? Coming from an abusive home, I had spent most of my life avoiding scary things.

Discovering the importance of writing what’s scary helped me. We’re writing what matters when we write the scary things. 

It became easier the more I did it. In addition, I discovered readers related to things I shared. And the shame I previously felt about my weaknesses started diminishing.

Dr. Brené Brown, Psychologist explained we experience shame because we keep secrets. We feel like we’re the only ones going through experiences such as ours. Sharing those experiences alleviates the shame.


You’re not alone

I quickly found I was anything but alone.

People used words like, “courageous,”  “brave.” I almost looked behind me to see who they were talking about.

I felt anything but brave. I was scared. But I wrote anyway.

Writers can sometimes hook their readers with opening sentences, but to ensure they stay, we need to engage them. 

So I open up—share my weaknesses. Recently I shared how God helped me let go of my motherly guilt.

Will this make me famous? I doubt it, but I can tell you something. It will touch people.

I take writing seriously. It’s a calling to me, not a hobby.

I’m a poet, blessed to have my poetry in stores. You can read about that here.

I started putting my poetry on my webpage, my blog, my Facebook page.

Pieces like these: 


God uses our weaknesses

In 2 Corinthians 12:9-11, Paul tells us God’s power is seen through our weaknesses. We want to Give glory to God. Let others see how His power is perfected in you.

Paul opened up, thorns and all.

By being vulnerable, people will see God working through my broken places. The same places I used to hide. Tweet this

How can you glorify God through your weaknesses? What is He asking you to share?



Anne Peterson


Anne Peterson is a poet, speaker and freelance author of 42 published Bible Studies as well as 25 articles with, and Today’s Christian Woman. Anne’s poetry is sold in gift stores throughout the US and in several countries.

Her first book, Real Love: Guaranteed to Last, is available HERE. You can find out more about Anne by visiting her website or her Facebook page.

Presently Anne is working on her second book, Broken, Yet; Growing Through the Pain of Abuse.



Categories : Authenticity . blog images . blogging . inspiration . transparency

Is Guest Blogging over? See what Google has to say

 Guest blogging has long been considered the #1 way of driving traffic back to your own blog. Not only is it one of the best ways, also one of the easiest! There are even several very large website that focus on connecting bloggers with guest bloggers.

The reasons behind guest blogging are simple. You write an original blog post to be posted on another blog. That site publishes your article, which includes a short bio about yourself and a link or two back to your own site.

  • Your blog automatically receives ‘Page Rank Juice’ from the blog your article is posted on. Meaning Google ranks your site a little bit higher now that you have a link coming from another popular blog
  • When that blogs readers, read your post, (if it is well written) many of them will click on the link back to your blog to read more of your posts. Depending upon the popularity of the blog you posted on, this could drive a HUGE amount of traffic back to your site! The hope is that they will then Like & Share your page and Subscribe to your feed or newsletter

What a great deal. Spend a little time writing a post for another blog and get a ton of traffic and higher search engine ranking!

But wait, Google says No More!!

Matt Cutts, a Google engineer and the head of Google’s WebSpam team recently posted on his personal blog that in 2014, Google is putting a end to Guest Blogging for Search Engine Optimization reasons.

The problem is that it really has gotten to be too spammy. There are a lot of people and companies that will offer to guest post on your blog, or even pay you to publish their post. The problem is that a lot of them are poorly written spammy articles that include links to spammy website. Not what you want your blog linking to!

So what does this mean?

Should I stop guest posting and not allow anymore guest posting on my blog?

Not necessarily. Matt says that Google is changing the rules and will no longer be giving you the higher ranking just because you guest posted on a more popular site. As long as you’re not posting on spammy site, or allowing guest posts from spammy site, I don’t think you have to worry about your ranking being penalized. Even if you ignore the ranking factor, there is still the potential for your article to bring in a lot of clicks from the readers of the other blog. After all, it’s not just about what Google thinks is good. Google ranking is important, but it is not more important that human readers finding your wonderful writing!

I will continue to guest post on other blogs. I will still allow respected bloggers post on my sites. We just need to keep these things in mind and be a little bit more careful from here on out.


What do you think? Do you find guest blogging to be useful? Will you continue to do it? Have you noticed an increase in traffic after making a guest post?

Let us know in the comments



Categories : blog promotion . guest blogging . guest post . SEO

Are you there for your readers, or just preaching to them?

Do not disturb

Recently, I have spent a lot of time looking over Christian Blogs. Our member’s blogs and other blogs I have found online. I love looking around and reading different blogs. To see what others are writing about, to get ideas for the Fellowship of Christian Bloggers or my own blog, etc.

There is one thing I have noticed on a lot of blogs. There is no way to contact the author…..

Ok, so most of them have a comment system on their posts, but it surprised me to see so many sites that did not have a email link or ‘Contact Us’ page. I can see how you may think this isn’t necessary. Sure, if someone wants to make a comment, they can just comment on the post itself. But what if that’s not enough?

On my blog, I have received messaged from my readers that they most likely would not have left in a post comment; Specific details of how the post spoke to them or related to their situation, prayer requests, requests for help, etc.

Now this can be hard to handle sometimes. You may not feel comfortable with a stranger pouring their heart out to you; I know I wasn’t at first. Maybe you don’t think you have time to deal with a bunch of emails from your readers. (Unless you have a VERY popular and active blog, you probably won’t get emails very often) Whatever the reason, ask yourself. Would you keep going to a Church where the Pastor came out of his office long enough to preach to you, then went back into hiding and was not available to you for questions, comments, or help? I wouldn’t. In John 21:17, when Jesus instructed Simon (and all of us) to "Feed my sheep", He didn't mean for us to throw some food in front of them and leave, we should be ready to serve each other.  

I’m sure of you would ever have such cold hearted motives, but sometime we need to consider how these things may appear to our readers.


Just a thought…

Categories : blog . Learning to Serve

How to pick a blogging platform

These days, starting a blog online is incredibly easy. There are all kinds of options, most of which are free, but they not all created equal. How do you go about picking which blogging platform to use? What options are there? Well, here is just a little info on some of the major platforms.


Wordpress is without a doubt, the most widely know blogging platform. You can either download and install it on your own server space via or you can use the ready-to-go and freely hosted


  • Very widely used and supported
  • Free hosting available
  • Tons of free and premium widgets


  • Free hosted has lots of limitation as to what you can add/install to your own site
  • Requires knowledge of php to make advanced changes
  • Security issues can leave your site vulnerable to spam/hacking


Popular Wordpress Widgets

Google XML Sitemaps - Creates a Google friendly XML sitemap of your blog and automatically updates it when you post new content on your blog

Thank Me Later - Anytime someone leaves a comment on your blog, this plugin sends them a follow-up email to thank them for taking the time to comment on your post.

Follow me - Adds a persistent box on your side bar. Add in your Social Media widgets to make it easier for your readers to Like/Follow/+1 you

TinyMCE Advanced - Although I don't use Wordpress, this is my prefered text editor that I use here on the FOCB. TinyMCE is a enhanced WYSIWYG (What You See Is What You Get) text editor that will give you many more features to insure your post come out looking the way you want them. -Image optimizer that reduces the file size of your images, without any lss in quality. Keep your site looking great, without the slow load times.




  • Free
  • Very Easy to use
  • Obviously Google loves it and can index it quickly


  • Limited widgets
  • Very limited ability to customise and extend it further
  • Fewer 'bells & whistles' compared to other blogging platforms.


Blogger is a bit different in the way it handles widgets. When you go into your layout settings, it gives you the ability to add different widgets provided by Google. You can also add or make your own widgets. Blogger does not have nearly the following that Wordpress has so there are a lot less ready-made widgets outside of what Google provides. I have decided not to link to any 3rd party widgets since most of them are from random developers with no guarantee of stability or security. (BE) is my personal favorite blog platform and it is what The Fellowship of Christian Bloggers website is built on. I enjoy the built in features, available widgets, and ability to custom code anything I need into it.


  • Comes packages with several HTML5/CSS3 themes, useful widgets, and SEO/compress features
  • Fully open source and customizable (requires knowledge of framework)
  • Typically faster then other platforms


  • No free hosting available (but it can run on cheap shared hosting accounts)
  • Not as many widgets available as Wordpress


Popular BlogEngine.Net Widgets

Live View Count - Show the number of live users that are reading your posts. URL shortener - If you want to share a blog post, but don’t want to send a long link (or can’t in twitter) this makes is simple to generate a shorter URL

Quotations - Display a daily quotation or Bible verse that will change each day.

SOIC (Semantically-Interconnected Online Communities) - SOIC is an extension of RDF which goes beyond RSS in that it describes not only the content of a website, but the connections between site content, authors on the site, and other websites.

StopForumSpam (now integrated in the BlogEngine.Net 2.8) - Automatically blog comments against a database of common comment spam. If a match is found, it flags the post as Spam rather than displaying it on your site.  



TypePad and MovableType are two other blogging platforms that I have starting to hear more about. I have not used either of them and while doing a little searching, found they are a bit pricy for what they offer.


 What do you think? What platform do you use and why? 



Categories : blog . blogging

Are you truly spreading Gods love?

"Dispensing good, helpful advice gets the benevolent juices flowing. As easy as it is to give advice, though, it often hits me with the irony of a cartoon anvil when I end up tripping over my own counsel. When this happens, I’m convicted to examine my motives for advice-giving.

In his letter to the Romans, Paul challenges the superior mindset that was common among some Jewish people at the time: “But if you call yourself a Jew and rely on the law and boast in God and know his will and approve the things that are superior, because you are instructed by the law, and are confident that you yourself are a guide of the blind, a light to those in darkness, and instructor of the foolish, a teacher of the immature, having the embodiment of knowledge and of the truth in the law. Therefore, the one who teaches someone else, do you not teach yourself?” (Rom 2:17–21).


Paul is explaining why looking to the OT law for righteousness is futile. No person could perfectly keep the law. By holding to it, they were in fact condemning themselves. Paul even points out that some Jews thought they had attained a higher moral standing because of their knowledge of the law—and believed they were in a position to teach others. Yet they were still breaking the law.


It’s easy for us to discard this as an early church issue. Yet we still sometimes take comfort in “keeping the law” today. If we cling to our own good behavior rather than the righteousness we have in Christ, we commit the same sin. We can attempt to live like a saint—we can cultivate a reputation for goodness and dishing out wisdom—but we’ll set ourselves up for imminent failure because we can never keep up the pretense of godly behavior on our own.


However, if our “circumcision is of the heart”—if we trust in Christ’s sacrifice for our righteousness and the Spirit is working in us—then our hearts will be in the right place. That place is where we know we are great sinners, and where we are receptive to His transforming work to bring us into complete loyalty to Him. Then we will seek God’s favor, not the favor and superiority we crave from others.


If our lives are truly changed, we will be motivated to love others out of the love God shows us. That will give us the right perspective for seeing the transformation that God is working in their hearts. And it will free us to give the best advice of all: Seek God in everything.


What are your motives for giving advice?"1


Reading this devotional this morning sure got me thinking. I think this is something we all need to be careful of. No matter what your background is, how long you have been saved, or your role in the Church, we all need to humbly seek God in everything. Even the most knowledgeable among us, is still a fellow sinner, saved by His grace. Do not get stuck in the law like the Pharisees did. Do not use your blog to "Preach (down) to" people. Instead, use it as a way to spread the Gospel to the ends of the earth.

Does your blog lecture people on what is wrong or right? Do you use it as your personal soap box to voice your opinions, or are you truly spreading Gods love? What are your motives for giving advice?



1Excerpt from Connect the Testaments: A Daily Devotional. Barry, J. D., & Kruyswijk, R. (2012).  Bellingham, WA: Lexham Press.

Categories : criticism . encouragement . Learning to Serve . pleasing people

New Look, New Features, Growing Community!

I hope everyone is enjoying the new Fellowship of Christian Bloggers website! We are working hard to build this into the best online community for Christian Bloggers!

Since we moved to the new website and reopened member applications just a few weeks ago, we already have 19 new blogs! Praise God, he is working to grow this ministry!

What do you think of the new look? Please help me give a HUGE thanks to one of our newest members and designer extraordinaire Leslie Jenkins for all of the work she has done! Leslie is a fellow Christian blogger and owner of From a Daughter Designs. She has done some design work for me in the past and she always delivers impressive work!

Have you looked at the member directory in the past couple days? It now shows your blogs Google Page Rank, Global Alexa Rank, and the number of pages indexed by Google! (I’m hoping to add some other metrics soon!) Yes I know, blogging to encourage others and glorify God is way more important than just the numbers, but these do help us understand how well were doing to get our posts out there so others can see and read them. Numbers aren’t the most important thing, but they do matter. All of these numbers for your blog are updated daily then each site is ranked and the top 50 blogs on the FOCB are awarded a special ‘Top 50 Blog’ Badge!

Speaking of badges, have you seen then new Member Badge? Thanks again Leslie! I know that everyone just had to update their FOCB badge recently when we moved to the new site and I do hate to ask you all to do it again. If you have your badge linked to us, it will have changed automatically. If you would rather keep the old image, that’s fine with me too. If it’s not too much to ask, I would like for everyone to update their code just one more time. When you login to and go to your profile, you will see a specific code that includes an image link for your blog. This is a special code that will display the Member badge on your site, but if you reach the Top 50, it will automatically change your member badge to a special Top 50 badge!

Do you accept Guest Bloggers on your blog? If so, be sure to check the box on your profile. This will add a "Guest Bloggers Welcome" button to your listing in the member directory!


What would you like to see added to the FOCB? What features, resources, posts, etc would help you in your efforts to spread the Gospel online? Let us know and we will add it to the to-do list for FOCB!

Notice I keep saying ‘we’. I may have taken over the FOCB, but there is no way I can do this alone. First and foremost, I am nothing without the knowledge and talents God has given me. He deserves all of the praise and glory! God has also blessed us with a wonderful team that is working hard behind the scenes to make this community a success. Big thanks to our admins; Jan Christiansen, Carolyn Roth, Valarie Wyatt, Mark Luker, Idella Luster, Lori Ettel, Joe Siccardi, & Rachel Stephenson!

Make sure you stay connected with us. If you haven’t already please be sure to ‘Like’ us on Facebook at Also be sure to subscribe to the Newsletter on (widget in the right sidebar)


Thank you all and God Bless!






Categories : blog stats . fellowship of christian bloggers . guest blogging . members